- What if I'm unsure I want to have the baby?
“Abortion is fast and painless. A clean break. An easy way out. No one will ever have to know of my pregnancy.”
Some women facing an unplanned pregnancy believe the statement above to be true. But the reality is abortion isn’t easy, and is far from painless. While adoption and abortion are both difficult choices, some women think abortion will be the easiest and quickest solution to their unplanned pregnancy. One reason they don’t ever consider adoption is simply because they don’t understand the facts about adoption.
Today’s adoptions are very different from those in the past and from how they are sometimes portrayed in the media. If you choose adoption, you are in control of the adoption process and can choose the adoptive family who will raise your child. You will receive yearly pictures and letters of your child and may even maintain a relationship with the family and your child.
For more information about your decision please contact one of our pregnancy counselors for a free and confidential meeting on your options.
- What pregnancy expenses can I expect an adoptive family to pay?
Wisconsin law regulates the payment of adoption expenses. Reasonable costs relating to a healthy pregnancy, up to $5000, can be paid by the adoptive parents. Any other payments are not allowed and all payments must be reported to the courts and approved. Each case has very unique circumstances, so please contact one of our pregnancy services workers for further information.
Michigan adoption statutes also regulate the payment of adoption expenses by adoptive families. Reasonable expenses relating to a healthy pregnancy can be paid by the adoptive parents, including living expenses, travel expenses, information gathering, counseling services, attorney fees and medical expenses. Any other payments are not allowed, and all payments must be reported to the courts and approved. Each case has very unique circumstances. One of our pregnancy services workers can talk with you about the specifics of your situation.
- Can I make a plan for the delivery of my baby?
Yes, this is sometimes called the birth plan. Our staff know that you probably have many questions and emotions, and we will be with you to create a plan that feels right to you.
- Can I select the adoptive family?
Yes, if adoption is the right option for you, we have many families who are already screened and are anxious to welcome a child into their home. To see a few of our waiting families click here. We have many more families available - just contact us for more information.
- Can I have contact with the baby or the adoptive family after the adoption is finalized?
The amount and type of contact you want to have with your child is your choice. You are in control, and your counselor will work with the adoptive family to finalize the details of the plan. Because everyone is different, each arrangement between birth parents and the adoptive family is different, too. We can help you determine what type of contact you desire with your child after adoption.
- What can I expect when I contact LSS?
We are here to help you. That's our mission. We have experienced social workers and counselors on staff who can tell you about the adoption process and help you decide if adoption is the best choice for you and your unborn baby.
Every situation is different, and you are the only one who knows what is best for you, but we will walk alongside you to assist you with all the things going on in your life. We can also connect you with local resources available to you.
We know there are many things to think about as you consider decisions about your pregnancy: financial concerns, whether you are ready to be a parent, education goals, career plans, uncertainty about your relationship with the other birth parent, and more. Contact us to find out about the resources we offer and find out more about adoption options.
- What rights does a birth father have?
The birth father has the same rights as a birth mother. If the birth father chooses, he can also receive birth parent counseling through our agency. The birth mother is required by the court to provide as much information as possible about the identity of the birth father so legal notice can be given to him prior to the Termination of Parental Rights hearing. The birth father does not have to be present at any point. However, he will need to be legally notified. If he does not appear at the court hearing, and he has not declared paternal interest before the hearing, his rights may be terminated by default.
- Does the birth father have to be notified about the baby, baby’s birth and the mother’s adoption plan?
Yes, birth fathers should be aware of the impending birth and any adoption plan the birth mother may be considering.
- Can the birth father choose the adoptive parents?
Yes, we want both the birth mother and birth father to be involved in this process. The birth father will have a chance to meet with the adoptive family, if he chooses. Deciding upon a family has to be mutually agreed upon by both birth parents.
- What happens if I am unsure that I am the biological father?
Paternity testing is available to determine paternity of a child. Paternity testing cannot be performed until the child is born.
- How can I, the birth father, give notice that I intend on parenting the child?
You can file a Declaration of Paternal Interest with the Department of Children and Families. This will guarantee you are notified of any court proceedings regarding the child.
- What if I, the birth father, am unsure of my decision in regard to parenting before the TPR hearing?
We have many adoption counselors available to discuss your conflicted thoughts and feelings at any time.
- Can I, as the birth father, still have contact with my child after he/she has been adopted?
You can be involved in the decision making process of selecting the family that would be open to your desired level of communication. Click here to learn more about open adoptions.